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First Date Tips

First Date Tips

First Date Tips

A first date should cause that excited feeling like no other. After all, you never know what may follow

They can give you that anxious nervous feeling which may sometimes prevent your true personality coming through so don’t be disappointed if you don’t fall in love on the first date, you will be able to tell if there is chemistry, it may take a couple more times to know if there is anything else.

Here’s our advice on making the most of that first meeting.

Where to go

Choosing the right place to go is important but not essential, ask them what they like and go with your gut feeling.

A candlelit dinner is the ultimate romantic night out and a great way to impress but in some cases maybe a bit formal, if you are really nervous you may prefer to avoid facing a heavy meal. A quiet drink in an atmospheric wine bar might be more suitable and you can always decide to go on to eat together if the evening is going well.

If you’re a nervous person a trip to the theatre or the cinema will limit conversation, but it can be nice to spend time with someone without having to worry about any awkward silences, and afterwards you will have something to chat about.

Somewhere like a comedy club or a pub or bar with live music is the perfect balance between entertainment and the opportunity to get to know eachother.

You may even prefer to do an activity together – why not?

Activities can help to break the ice, get rid of nerves and after all, shared interests will help a relationship in the long term.

You could choose something to reflect your personality or something that you think your date would enjoy – or you could go for an adventure and try something that neither of you have tried before.

Check out our Date Ideas section for lots of dating suggestions.

What to wear

For many of us clothing is confidence. Dress yourself in the clothes that make you feel good. If you feel good, you look good.

If you are unsure about what to wear go for the mid ground and avoid anything too extreme. The most important thing is that you feel comfortable.

Make an effort to look nice but don’t overdo it.

Be Yourself

Do not try to be someone you are not.

There is no point. Your date needs to like you for who you are and if they don’t then they are the wrong person for you.

Having said that, do make an effort to be yourself at your best…


Good manners will help to make a date go smoothly, even from something as simple as being on time or if you’re the male, maybe slightly early to ensure the lady isn’t left sitting on her own.

So do be considerate and polite. But, remember don’t be someone your not.


Some people find it easy to kick off a conversation and get carried away together. Others are much less confident and can find it a nerve-racking experience.

Share your interests with your date. Tell them about what you do in your spare time, your work, music – whatever is important to you.

Listen as well as talk.

We sometimes feel pressure to do all the talking. Actually people like to be listened to.

Be comfortable in the silences. A silence is only awkward if one of you thinks it should be filled.

Try asking your date questions to find out about them, but be careful not to be too intrusive.

It can be fun to ask about completely unimportant things – where would you like to go on holiday to next, who would you least like to be stuck on a desert island with, what’s your favourite television programme?

Remember that an awkward first date might mean you’re not right for each other... but it might also mean you really like each other and are both too nervous to relax.

Give things time.

And finally...

Don’t take things too seriously. Enjoy the date for itself rather than for what might follow.

Set out to have fun and to make the most of your time out and let the rest fall in to place.



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